Love matters

"I don’t mind your odd behavior
it’s the very thing I love
if you were an ice cream flavor
you would be my favorite one" 

- Mindy Gledhill, All about your heart.

No matter how hard people convinced you not to swallow those words that you wanted to say; No matter how hard people advice you to be straightforward; you can just see it everywhere, even the book of "how to be in a good relationship" already stated communication is the first criteria. In the end, the bad habit is still there hanging - preferring keeping things to your own because you find it not easy to just say it out as you're afraid to hurt a person's feelings and/or there may be a risk that the relationship will ended this way.

The girlfriend generally prefers to keep things to their own. Thus, there's a saying that women is a complicated creature. Yes, probably women tend to complicate things due to their sensitivity or insecurity. But in fact, all they want to know is an answer to a question. They do not like assuming, they do not like the feeling of doubt. These definitely have nothing to do with the level of trust. Is just women’s thinking. They are just weird which all the guys claim.

The only reason or perhaps one of the reasons a guy swallow their words is they do not want to cause a fight. A good thing huh? Maybe, maybe not. Men are a weird creature as well, claims by the women. At times, they can be much matured when solving certain problems, but at a certain things, they just can’t do it. But one thing for sure, what they need is freedom and privacy. Never ever try to cross the line as they will find you annoying. They can be very understanding too, but yet again, give them some time to figure it out, do not pressure them to understand you at the first second. As they said, women are complicated. Thus, some women may think why can’t guys just understand it?

Clearly shows that communication is a need for relationship as well as friendship. But do bear with women’s way of talking. They tried very hard to explain things they want to say, and do not pressure them too. Cause, the final outcome will be definitely they end up saying things wrongly and then the boyfriend will be pissed off. Tolerance? Yea, I guess a relationships need that too. Tolerant, broad understanding and a long conversation to keep things right.

"The chances are slim that you're reading this,

but I love you."

- the notebook